Dating multiple people okay
I know I need to make a decision before things go too far (becoming too physical), but how do I know when?I am trying not to let things move too fast physically or emotionally, but they both seem very interested and I just don’t know what to do.When I was only meeting one girl a month, there were so many qualities that I didn’t like that I would ignore simply because I didn’t want to have to start all over with someone else.I would continue to date someone negative or rude or conceited and would just hope that things would just eventually “work themselves out”.With this approach, I went on one first-date every month, sometimes less.All of these dates were very stressful because of the time being I devoted just to get to the date.
When I first started online dating, I had this notion that dating more than one person simultaneously would somehow be insincere. There were times where I would end up talking to a few girls at once but this was always accidental.
I recall one time that I was dating two women simultaneously for about a month. My ambivalence was a feeling, more than a logical choice. You may not know the front-runner for the open position of “boyfriend”, but since you’re the CEO of Maggie, Inc, you’re going to take your sweet time to see how the interns perform in a limited capacity. In general, I think this is the best policy, because it’s a clear dividing line that any man can understand.
Both were cute, smart, cool, late 20’s, Jewish, and interested in me. Which is why I kept looking around on JDate for that entire month that I was seeing both of them. The faster they follow up, the more work they choose to take on, the quality of their performance – all will start to differentiate these two men to make your decision a lot easier. “I only sleep with boyfriends, and until we figure out if an exclusive relationship is the right course of action for both of us, we’re gonna have to just stick with some incredible foreplay!
The good news: because of the broad scope of the question, every reader who is interested in deciding between two men can use this advice.
The bad news: without more specific details, I’m not sure you can.
Regardless, I’m going to do what I always do in these situations: insert myself in the middle and riff a little bit. Making a decision about a guy is no different than any other decision. For me, I decided back in 2004 that I wouldn’t sleep with anyone who wasn’t a girlfriend.